The Forest AND the Trees

I can’t understand what I don’t uncover. I can’t uncover what I don’t want to see. How do I remove the justifications that keep my resentments alive? How do I learn to recognize my own rationalizations?

It is by talking things out with a trusted person (in my case, my sponsor) that I can start to see the patterns in my own behavior and find more healthy ways to deal with what has not worked for me, for the sake of my highest good and my emotional growth. 

I can keep my focus on that one tree, whether I’m right in front of it or simply concentrating on it alone, without even noticing that it’s part of a forest. When I am asked to describe it, do I consider the context in which I find it? What judgements do I attach to it? What is factual and what is opinion? How do I determine that particular tree’s importance to my journey? Can I relax into another viewpoint? Can I let it be whatever it is, or do I need to chop it down? Is it mine to chop or alter?

I find the kind of second sight I need when I am open to the process of uncovering, no matter where it leads. In that uncovering, I can feel the warmth of the Sunlight of the Spirit shining through.

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